what a girl wants..

got this one from lesley... nice one! :)

I want a guy who would move the hair away from my eyes and then kiss me... hold my hand in line at the mall and make all the girls jealous... someone who would sing to me at moments... who would let me sleep on their chest... a boy who would get mad at someone if they called me ugly or was mean to me. I want someone who would call me three times a day if he went away... someone who would let me gossip to him and would just smile and agree with everything I said... he would throw stuffed animals at me when I acted dumb and then kiss me a million times... someone who would make fun of me just to make me laugh... he would take me to the park and put his hands around my waist and give me big bear hugs all the time... he would tell all his friends about me and smile when he did it and we'd make out in the pouring rain... he would never be afraid to say "I love you" in front of his friends, and we'd argue about silly things then make up. I want a boy that would kiss me at midnight on new years and count stars with me... who would stay home with me on a Friday night just to help me make dinner and watch movies together under the same blanket... someone who would tell me I’m beautiful but not too often... who would make me laugh like no one else could... but mostly, I want someone who would be my best friend and would never break my heart.

I want to be the girl he’s scared to lose. The one he can’t walk away from knowing I’m mad at him. The one whom he can’t fall asleep without my voice being the last one he hears. The one he wouldn’t know what to do without. And simply the girl he has repeatedly told to himself and to other people that “she’s the only one.”

now the question is,
"is there really such a guy?" :D


~grazhishu~
*wu chun addict*
*forever loyal joe cheng gal*

torn between joe and chun

i know this is a little too late but i'm currently under the spell of wu chun! hahaha

he's been here in the philippines last july and i've been impressed by how he had interacted with his fans.. he seemed so kind and sincere unlike other artists who have nothing in mind but pure business. wu chun is different, aside from being a hunk idol drama actor (which is kind of rare for taiwanese actors.. hehe :D), he even created his own blog... reading his entries further astonished me. he seemed to be very caring towards his fans that some are already suspecting that it's a fake blog, meaning it's not directly him who's writing those articles. well, i actually don't care. i like him and that's all i care for.. haha :)

wonderin' why i suddenly got under his spell after almost half a year has passed from when he visited the philippines? actually, i've liked him a little since then... but now, i'm liking him so much!!! i'm slowly becoming an addict of him.. haha :D this is because i've finally finished watching my dvd copy of the taiwanese drama ROMANTIC PRINCESS. i didn't have the time to watch all of it when it was aired in ABS because of my shift in the office.

the story was quite simple and predictable as most idol drama series are but it was really fun watching. just like the usual cinderella story, the lead girl happened to be the long lost grand daughter of the richest man in taiwan and was found after 17 long years of separation. the grandfather, also known as EMP, being the richest man in taiwan holds the highest position (chairman) in their company consisting of several merged sub-companies. but since he's becoming old, he trained 4 youngsters, one of which will marry his grand daughter and become his successor. the favored successor nan feng jin (played by wu chun) turns out to have different plans for himself. because he didn't want to be the successor, he can't fully express his feelings for emp's grand daughter huangfu shan (played by angela zhang). that's where the story revolved... and for all those 13 episodes i've watched fom cover to cover, i wasn't able to take my eyes off of wu chun! hehehe i'm just so under his spell...

honestly, i think i'm now torn between joe and chun..
chun is stealing me away from joe... hahaha (as if!)
and hey, i just noticed, i have a lot of wu chun pictures in my cellphone lately... hehe :D

........

~grazhishu~
*wu chun addict*
*forever loyal joe cheng gal*

20 things girls should keep in mind

this is again one of the most beautiful articles i got from my email...
and one of the most essential of all i've read... i think. :)
this is for all girls, single or taken... have a look...

1. A man won't let go if he really loves you. Do not hold on to someone who has let go of you. He does not love you and does not value having you. Believe me, he will not let go if he really loves you. There is another reason he is not willing to tell.

2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship. There is only one reason why he ended your relationship. He just does not love you. Do not waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have done. Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you.

3. Do not get hang up on your past. Do not nag or distrust your current boyfriend just because your ex hurt you. Do not treat him or the relationship the same way. Do not compare. He will not react the same way as your ex. Do not be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to look for another girl. What happened with your ex was not your fault. It was not because you didn't guard him enough or you didn't make him happy enough.

4. Do not look into images. How many times have you met a girl who didn't have the best image in school or at the office, but you get to know the girl and found out she was actually extremely nice? Do not rely on images. Oftentimes, it is far from reality. Do not fear men just because your 'supposedly' perfect ex-boyfriend mistreated you.

5. Always have your own set of rules. Set your limits on how far you will go for a guy. It's perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as its worth it. And it's worth it if the guy is treating you right.

6. Do not be scared to lose him. Don't be scared that he'll break up with you. Once you are afraid of losing him, you easily can be taken advantage. Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak up.

7. Avoid calling your guy. It's a guy thing. The relationship will definitely be better if it's the guy who's calling, not the girl. He will get tired of you if you keep on calling. He will lose interest and challenge. More so, he will get annoyed. But it's a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until you dial his number. But avoid as much as possible. Call only if really needed (like checking if your suspicions are reasonable).

8. There is a guy who will value you. There is a guy out there who can make you feel valued, appreciated, and loved. And I mean, not just during your first few weeks together. So don't lose hope. Don't settle for a lesbian if you are not attracted to women. There is a man out there who can love you like a girl can (*wink*). Also, do not believe him when he says it's just the way he really is. He's not the sweet or expressive-type. Remember during your first few weeks together? Where has that sweet guy gone? He simply is not that into you anymore.

9. Always be the only one, no matter what. Do not ever fall for a guy who has another girl, be it his wife, girlfriend, or any girl that he says he just can't get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he loves you and for some reason, he can't leave or let go of another girl, then you are no different from any ordinary mistress.

10. He must respect you. No matter how long the relationship has been, he should always show respect towards you.

11. If he fooled you, end it. Philandering once is enough. You can never trust nor respect the person again.

12. Never start a relationship the wrong way. Do not steal another girl's man, for whatever reason. Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons (loneliness, on the rebound, getting back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last. You will only end up wasting more years of your life.

13. Do not force yourself into a relationship. Do not get into a relationship just because your friends are getting impatient with your dating escapades and the one hasn't come yet. Do not choose who to say yes to based on superficial things like money, looks, cars, etc.. If you are even thinking of these things, you have not fallen in love yet.

14. Do not settle. If you are not happy anymore with your relationship, break up instantly. He will not stay with you forever no matter how upright he might seem to be. Eventually, he will also want love and happiness in his life.

15. A relationship has to have love. Love is the only thing that will push you to give your efforts into making the relationship work. And believe me, keeping a relationship requires genuine efforts of both parties.

16. Don't be afraid to be single. It's fun to be single, try it. You can go out whenever and wherever you want. You are free. You can date whomever you want and you get to go out for free! Do not get a boyfriend just for the sake of having one. Do not settle.

17. Be a good girl. Be a good girl to attract a good guy. Enter the relationship with sincere intentions. Take the guy and the relationship seriously with the plan of spending the rest of your life with that person (of course, this is after you had your bit of fun in your younger years). If you compare your flings from your real relationships, you will know that the latter makes you happier and more fulfilled.

18. Love without limits. Whether you loved and gave everything or loved but held out for some things, if the relationship ends, you still get hurt. But if you gave your everything, you were happy and you could say that it was worth it. If you didn't give your all, you get hurt for nothing.

19. You will get over him. Love is over-stated. Love eventually ends and you are free to love another.

20. Be the one. Act like you are the one. Don't be a nagger. Don't hinder his gimmicks. Don't give in to him too easily. Make him treat you as important. Don't be easy. Don't be like every other girl he had in his life.

hmmm...
that's all i can say.. hihi :D

~grazhishu~
*wu chun addict*
*forever loyal joe cheng gal*

single ladies... cheers!

this is one of the emails i was able to dig when i was once sorting my files.

this was forwarded by my blockmate in college, way back december 2002. i loved reading this one a lot!!!! maybe because i'm a single lady myself, i can relate a lot and share the same sentiments too. so to all of you single ladies out there, hopefully by reading this article, you'll gain more confidence and see a new perspective in life... that being single lady doesn't necessarily mean being alone or sad... but simply being free to do anything and meet anyone you want! :)

i don't know who the author is...
but whoever you are, you rock girl! :)
here goes... read on...


WHEN you're 20+ years old, without a boyfriend or even a suitor, you are considered a freak in this world.

Yep, no matter how hard you explain it, you are the odd one out. Attending parties alone. Commuting alone. Spending Valentine's Day watching "Sleepless in Seattle" for the nth time. In family reunions you are always asked that one question: "Do you have a boyfriend?" That's because a lot of people think that a man is the be-all and end-all of a woman's existence. So over a perfectly good slice of chocolate cake, I considered the question: "Why do I choose to be without a boyfriend?" I do not completely understand men. It is not possible and I don't attempt to. But this is what I know.

First: I don't have to worry about gaining a few pounds. That's why I can enjoy a perfectly good slice of chocolate cake without guilt. I don't have to worry about trying to fit into a tube top for our (my hypothetical boyfriend and I) Saturday night date. I don't have to count the calories in a box of Oreo just to keep my boyfriend's eyes from wandering. I can indulge myself with a whole order of chicken cutlets from the Aveneto without worrying about my abs. You see, men are very visual creatures. It bothers them to see their woman even with a little fat. No such thing as unconditional love unless you go to the gym first.

Second: I'll be known just as me and not as someone's partner. "And hypothetical boyfriend" does not become my new last name.

Third: If all I needed was just someone to bring me home from school, there's always carpool, my dad and commuting. If what I needed was someone to carry my things for me, four males in my barkada can do it. True I can't expect much from them on Valentine's. But come on, it's just one day in a year. To quote Bridget Jones: "Valentine's Day is purely commercial, cynical enterprise, anyway. Matter of supreme indifference to me."

Fourth: Cliché and a truth: I had the privilege of knowing myself better. I have heard this a lot of times and it's true. People make the mistake of jumping into a relationship without knowing who they really are. You have to take time to learn even the simplest things about yourself. We're individuals. We're not extensions of another personality. You don't have to pretend you like R&B music because your boyfriend does. Or eat blueberry cheesecake even if you think it tastes like perfume.

Fifth: I heard this from the creator of the TV series "Sex & the City": Often, women look for that someone to complete themselves. But that just doesn't work because you alone should complete yourself. Before I chose to remain unattached, I had the illusion that there was 50 percent of me somewhere in the world. I would walk around expecting the next man to be that 50 percent. That's why it was so easy to believe that you were in love although you were really in love with the idea of being in love. Blame Jerry Maguire and his "You complete me" line.

Sixth: I can be friends with all the guys I want without anyone hounding or interrogating me. A friend told me what a great feeling it was to go to a party and mingle with all sorts of people. It's much better than sitting in the farthest corner of the bar with your boyfriend, watching everybody else having a good time. Being single gives you more freedom.

Seventh: With just too many assholes and perverts out there, this is probably a major reason I choose to be single. Every single encounter with an asshole reaffirms my commitment to remain unattached. A friend told me that assholes act the way they do because they think they're God's gift to women. I think assholes are the way they are because they can't accept the fact that women can be better than them. Believe me, I've met all kinds [darn! same here]: jerks, commitment phobic, chauvinists, players, liars, peeping toms, egotists, maniacs, etc.

Eighth: I don't have to listen to mushy songs, do mushy things, write mushy letters and say mushy words. I used to listen to Sunday Slowdown regularly, which fed my illusion of undying, unrequited and true love Now I only listen to a lot of guitar, bass and screaming. It feels much better.

Nineth: My life is complicated enough. I don't need someone to complicate it further. It breaks my heart to see my friends distressed over a guy. "He didn't call." "He didn't show up." "I saw him with another girl." "He spends more time with his friends than me." "He cancelled." "I think he's breaking up with me." "He thinks I should give him space." "But he just wants to be friends." "He wants us to get back together." "He's a bad driver." I have heard these and more. Thank God all I have to worry about is getting home by 8 p.m. on Tuesdays to catch "Ally McBeal."

Tenth: Cynthia Alexander, in her song "Walk Down the Road," could not have said it better: "I'm glad to be on my own. I have never been this free? I've never been so alive, so much in love with life."

So I'm fine just the way I am, thank you very much. I'm fine being alone, fine without a man. People tell me I'm just saying that because I haven't met my man yet. Well, I'm not holding my breath waiting because I like me just as I am. Being single isn't about not having a man. It's about having fun, knowing yourself and having a perfectly good slice of chocolate cake.

well, i honestly think she has a point..

there's just one thing though, that i kind of disagee with.. that is the idea of believing in true love... i still believe in a thing called true and/or unconditional love... i also believe in soulmates... but you don't have to find it coz it will eventually find it's way to you.. i once heard from a friend, "hindi hinahanap yan... kusang dumarating yan..". well, i think so too...

so for the mean time, when you still haven't found the one, just enjoy the freedom of being single and live a happy worry free life. see, there's no reason to be sad this coming valentine's day... cheers miss independent! :)

~grazhishu~
*a wu chun fan*
*forever loyal joe cheng gal*